Recover Sex is all about getting back to being yourself, including your sex life. Sex means different things to different people. What your ideal sex life is may not be what the next person envisions. In a healthy person in a good relationship, it might not take much to upset one’s sex life. It could take something as simple as a nasty cold or a bad night’s sleep.
When serious illness occurs, especially one that alters your bodily functions or physical appearance, it can cause you to take a U-turn from your sex life. For a variety of reasons, you may not be interested in sex. In some way, shape, or form your sex life is likely to change.
Whatever it is you’re going through, you might feel differently about your body. You may be afraid your partner sees you differently, and perhaps they do. If your relationship wasn’t so good to begin with, you might be fearful that things could get worse.
One of the most important things for your overall health is to be up front about your sexuality. You might need to take baby steps toward paying attention to your sexual needs. It might not be the first order on your plate. But paying attention to your needs must become a priority at some point.
There is not enough emphasis on talking about sex and your needs when you’re going through a major illness or surgery. It’s time to change that! Start by identifying how you feel about yourself. If you need to, write down your thoughts. Then, it’s important to share your thoughts with your partner. A heartfelt discussion about your fears and your hopes will open up both your eyes as to what you both need. Whatever health condition you’re dealing with, in your heart, you are still you.
If you can embrace yourself and have confidence that you are still the same person you always were, any physical or medical affliction becomes minor. The process you are going through can actually make you and your relationship stronger. If you can get through the tough parts, you’re a strong role model for others. When you accept changes in yourself, those who are close to you will more readily accept them too. If you are in a loving relationship, your partner will continue to love you even if you’re different.
Explore ways to make your intimate life special and meaningful. Try things you’ve never considered before. Be open to creating a different kind of sexual experience, if need be. If the sexual you becomes more healthy, so will all the other facets of your life!