Sexual Positions Following an Ostomy

If you’d prefer that your partner not directly see your stoma and pouch, you can assume sexual positions to minimize a direct view. If you were used to certain positions previously, you may want to be flexible and consider others that are comfortable as you begin having sex again.

Spoon Position

In the spoon position, the woman lies on her side with her partner curled against her back.  If the man has the ostomy, as long as the pouch is empty, sex should be comfortable in this position.

Kneeling Position

The kneeling position can be comfortable for either a woman or man with an ostomy.  The woman can kneel on all fours on the bed or other surface with her partner entering her from behind.

Standing Position

The standing position can be comfortable for either a woman or man with an ostomy.  The woman can lean on something firm, such as a chair, with her partner behind her.